Week 24 – all good things must come to an end

This is the final week of our active MKMMA journey. I have acquired many tools helping me to be a better person. Going through the 6 months of MKMMA one can’t help but change for the better. I learned to be the observer. This has probably been the best lesson ever. It has forced me to look at everything in a different light. It helped me put things into perspective. Things that seemed so very important before, don’t seem so important now. I learned to remember my accomplishments and bathe on what I am grateful for instead of dwelling on (dare I say) my failures or inadequacies. Each day I feel stronger than the day before. I still awaken each morning mentally saying scroll 2, “I greet this day with love in my heart”, as well as scroll 6, “I am the master of my emotions”.  There is no longer a need to torment myself with things I have no control over. I have grown and still have much more growing to do, but I believe I am now on the right track. This course may be ending, but the learning and growing continue on.

And – as Julie Andrews sang in the sound of music – “When I’m feeling sad, I simply remember my favorite things, And then I don’t feel so bad”.

As Mr Spock would say, “Live Long and Prosper!”

Till we meet again – stay happy and healthy!

Week 23 – Laws of Least Effort

As we approach the end of the Master Keys Master Mind Alliance (MKMMA) journey, this weeks lesson included the Laws of Least Effort – they are Acceptance, Responsibility, and Defenselessness.

Acceptance – Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I accept things as they are in this moment – not as I wish they were.

Responsibility – I will take responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. This means not blaming anyone or anything for the situation at hand and that includes myself.

Defenselessness – I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. There is no need to convince or persuade anyone to accept my point of view and I shall remain open to all points of view.

It kind of reminds me of the serenity prayer:

serenity prayer

In the MKMMA we were instructed to be the observer not the judge. This is much easier said than done. We live in a negative world. Is it easier to find fault than to find good? Is it the faults that resonate more with us? When I was growing up my mom used to complain about us picking up our friends bad habits. Were there no good ones? Or was it the bad ones that stood out? Did they make us cool?  Or did they lead us down a path that some are not able to recover from?  This course has opened my eyes to a lot of things especially about myself – some things I liked, other things I did not like.  I am still a work in progress but I believe I am on the right road now. I am also beginning to meet people that are on the same road.

Till next time –

stay Happy & Healthy.

Week 22A – Reflection

This week I found myself reflecting a lot on my life. I found myself constantly using the law of substitution. Maybe what stirred this was listening to and reading the book “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D Wattles. A lot of what was discussed in that book really hit home. One part of  the book talks about 2 people having the same tools and the same training yet one is successful and the other is not. This brought me to thinking about the MLM I am involved with. Every time I go into Facebook I read abut the success so many of my colleagues are having that I find myself getting depressed, even calling myself a loser. I am happy for their success but at the same time I am angry at my lack of success. I find myself chanting some of the scrolls we’ve been reading by Og Mandino. Scroll 2 (which is my favorite) – “I greet this day with love in my heart.” Scroll 4 – “I am nature’s greatest miracle”, and scroll 6 – ” Today I am the master of my emotions”. This feeling of being a loser forced me to reflect on my life. How can I call myself a loser? I have been successful in every endeavor I have partaken in to date except for the MLM.  When I worked corporate I met every goal I set for myself and was very well rewarded for my efforts. When I retired from corporate I studied and worked real hard and became a dog trainer. When I feel waves of depression, I find myself thinking of George in “It’s a Wonderful Life”. I think about how if I had never come to be what other people’s lives might be like. I am responsible for increasing the bond between many dogs and their owners. To my credit, I have saved some dogs from being euthanized by rehabilitating them. Twice a year I also work at a dog camp training dogs that have had no prior training so that they may become therapy dogs. The number of lives a therapy dog touches has its own exponential value.  My success rate is over 95% – which is really unheard of since the test has gotten harder over the  years. Then I think about some of the lives I’ve touched. I’ve helped people get out of debt by lending them the funds needed to solve their financial woes when they could not get a loan. I became the medical liaison for 2 people that would have probably died had I not stepped in and taken charge. I think about the people I have given emotional support to, such as my tenant when she lost her mother suddenly, and doing something as small as sending flowers to someone in a deep state of depression to simply cheer them up. These are the things that matter. Feeling bad about not succeeding in an MLM is not cause for feeling inferior or feeling like a loser. So the MLM is not working for me – who cares? Move on!

Week 22 – Mastering Emotions

This week we started a new scroll – it says, “Today I will be master of my emotions.” In the master keys we learn to be the observer. I find myself looking and listening to the actions of others. What I am realizing is the things that bother me most about some people are the things I don’t like in myself or the things I can most relate to in myself. For example, (and I’m going to blame it on my upbringing – haha) I have a tendency to be quite loud (not soft spoken), however, when I encounter someone who is also loud – I find it annoying. I am trying my best to be more soft spoken – well, let’s just say, I’m a work in progress and leave it at that! I look for the qualities in others I would like to develop in myself and then I simulate them until they come naturally. I have always been amazed at how some people can remain calm in most situations. Where I used to react immediately I now wait, reassess, and then react if necessary.  This I learned by watching others and learning to count to 10 before reacting.

When I am training a dog (I am a dog trainer), I tell my clients our purpose to to turn unwanted behavior into good behavior until it becomes an unconditioned response. The same goes for us. We must practice and master the emotions we wish to grow until they become our being. When we are sad we must smile. When we are angry we must think happy thoughts. Whenever a negativity occurs within us we must turn it to a positive. This is the Law of Substitution. If we want to have positive experiences we must keep our minds focused on positive things.  If we do not consciously focus on positive thoughts, the negative thoughts have a habit of showing up and multiplying – such as worries and anxieties. For whatever reason, and it could very well be the environment we are surrounded by, negative thoughts require no concentration to manifest, so we must consciously work on happy positive thoughts.

We are taught in the master keys that thought alone is not enough. We must pair it with emotion. Negativity seems to manifest out of emotion all by itself with no effort on our part, but to turn that into a positive thought also requires a level of emotion to manifest. Now I’m not saying if you are pissed at something and you smile it will automatically turn into a positive – you must release the pissed thought and replace it with a happy thought as well as the smile and maybe raise your arms in a symbol of victory to change that negative into a positive.

Although sometimes you need to be like Liza Minelli in Cabaret and just get it out of your system so you can let it go and move on!

Till next time –

Stay happy and healthy!

Week 21 – I believe in Miracles

This week is all about miracles. Einstein says, “There are only two ways to live your life.  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.” I live my life as though everything is miracle. Some miracles are obvious, such as the birth of a child or an animal, the gestation of a flower or plant that grows from a single seed, to name a few. But, what about things in our everyday life that we take for granted. We look around us and see blades of grass, the trees, mountains, valleys, rivers, oceans, the sky, clouds, etc. All the beauty that surrounds us are truly miracles. But what about the daily occurrences that happen around us. I found this video on youtube:

Would you consider these miracles or luck or divine intervention? Are they all one in the same? How many times have you been in the right place at the right time? Or in the wrong place at the wrong time? Do we attract whatever happens to us or what doesn’t happen to us?

Here is a video that corresponds with what we are learning about miracles and our thoughts.

Miracles are all around us – you just  have to open your eyes and your hearts and you’d be surprised.

Till next time –

stay happy and healthy

week 20 – is today my last?

I live this day as if it were my last. This is the scroll we are concentrating on this month. Instead of spending all my time working on my mlm I decided to focus my attention this week on enjoying my dog and playing in the snow. Along with my dog I was watching 2 other dogs. As I began working in my office the dogs kept coming in and nudging me to play. One kept bringing a ball, the others tried to occupy the same space as I. I decided,  instead of getting frustrated, let me join them. A couple of the neighborhood dogs came over to play also (I have a really big fenced in back yard). At first I felt guilty about playing instead of working, but then again, if this were truly my last day, playing with the dogs would definitely take precedence over working. So I chose to play with the dogs, instead of spending all day working on my mlm.  I allotted 2 hours a day to the mlm and played with the dogs the rest of the time.

dogs 1dogsdogs2

This week I was also supposed to attend a regional meeting for my mlm, instead, I chose to go snowmobiling with my husband.  I needed to focus my attention on my family this week. If it turns out that today is not my last day – well then I have tomorrow to work on my mlm.

Till next time –

stay happy and healthy!

Week 19 – to stay or to quit

I woke up earlier this morning than I usually do. I was having a bad dream. This dream seemed have an endless loop. Every time I attempted to go back to sleep the loop started again. I got up very frustrated. Maybe subconsciously this dream was a reflection of a conversation I had with my husband yesterday. He wants to know, “How much more time am I going to give to this mlm before I call it quits?” Maybe that was the underlying cause of this endless loop I seemed to be in. I am used to succeeding at everything I do. I was able to retire comfortably at an early age. The scroll we are reading this month deals with living each day as if it were your last. If today was the last day of my life do you think for one second I would care about this mlm I joined. Is it worth the stress that it is causing me? I do not get the support of the people around me. In fact, they all seem very pre-occupied with when am I going to quit? Are they sending me quit vibes? I am not a quitter but maybe they have a point. At what point do you say enough is enough – cut your losses and move on? I have been with this mlm for 2 1/2 years now. I rank advance and then I go backwards.  Sometimes I feel like a push me pull me toy. I have succeeded though in personal development. I am definitely a better person now than I was 2 1/2 years ago – so is this considered mission accomplished? I keep thinking what if? What if I quit and the next person I talk to would have been the one to turn this mlm around – but then again I’ve been saying that for the past 2 years.

When I saw this video on facebook it reminded me of my life in mlm – I am the dogs and everyone around me are the cats. 

Till next time…

Stay happy and healthy.

Week 18 – Living as if today were the last

This week we started a new scroll and this scroll says “I will live this day as if it were my last”. How many times do we find ourselves saying, “oh I’ll do it tomorrow, I’m too tired today”? How many times do we look back and say to ourselves “if I had only done that task yesterday”.  Why do we do that? Are we so programmed in thinking tomorrow is another day that there is no rush to get something done today? I find myself stopping and saying, no I need to do this today for tomorrow may never be.  Life can change in an instant (although we think this can never happen to us) and before we know it, we’ve wasted our lives away.

Think about the past when you were in the single digits and couldn’t wait until you were a teenager. When you became a teenager, then you couldn’t wait until you were 21. Then you were in a rush to get a good job and get married and – and – and ……it is never ending. We need to learn to stop and as the saying goes – smell the roses! Live for today, don’t forget about tomorrow, but live as though there IS no tomorrow.  This way we will never find ourselves saying “If only”. Now that is a good way to live in theory but to actually do it is harder to do than to say it!  We are so programmed that tomorrow is another day that we need to change our mindset. We also need to look at what we dwell on and don’t sweat the small stuff!

Till next time…

Stay Happy and Healthy!

Week 17A – the Heroes Journey

This week we were asked “what am I pretending not to know?” – At first I didn’t understand the question. Then we were given some examples. Every time I come to a roadblock or an obstacle, I now ask myself “What am I pretending not to know?” When we were babies we pursued until we succeeded – like walking, dressing ourselves, tying our shoes, even communicating etc. What happened in our life that stifled being persistent? This week I watched a show where one of the characters was asked if she could change anything in her life what would it be? I thought to myself – what happened in the past that took me from an adventurous risk taking persistent person to one of massive reserve? I watched a video of a scary roller coaster – the question being asked was “would you go on this ride?” – my answer was 20 years ago – most definitely – now – not a chance! What’s different that now I would not even consider going on the ride?  Is this the same thing that stops me from exploring the unknown? Why am I so concerned with the outcome as opposed to just enjoying the ride and seeing where it leads. Is it fear? Is it comfort in the known? Or am I so arrogant to think I have to control every outcome? One thing the MKMMA journey has taught me is to identify these obstacles and face them head on – the only way to break through them is to identify and destroy. I have been destroying a lot lately – I am getting better but I still have a ways to go. With each obstacle I face, I try to identify the underlining happening that caused the resistance – so I can change it.

We are also taught in the MKMMA to say our DMP’s with feeling and unbridled enthusiasm – I never really understood why or what difference it made – it’s not enough to want something or to dream about an outcome – we must live it and taste it and feel as though we already have it – then and only then will it become our reality instead of an unfulfilled dream.

Sorry this weeks blog seems to be all over the place – but so are my thoughts.

Till next time

Stay happy and healthy!

Week 17 – it creeped up again

This week I’ve had to concentrate on all the good I have in my life and all the accomplishments rather than dwell on the one thing that is not working for me. I also have to redo part of my DMP for it seems it is not going to happen – at least not now. Why do we only dwell on the negative – we are taught in the MKMMA series to let it go – it is not always so easy to do that. Sometimes I feel my life is a race – I have to make a certain goal by a certain amount of time or I am a failure. But – even when I look at all I have accomplished, when I look at the lives I have touched and the changes that  have occurred for the better. Why is it none of that seems to matter except for the one thing we could not accomplish? Have we been so conditioned to always dwell on the negative? Even reading though the cards reminding me of all the accomplishments and what I am grateful for – why is it the one negative thing in my life is what seems to be at the front of the line?

Till next time –

stay happy and healthy